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Should I talk about this?

Today is one of those days. One of those days where I really want to write about what’s happening in my life, but I can’t. And so, I write a very vague post. πŸ˜‰ (Don’t say I didn’t warn you)

It’s one of those days that is really good and really bad. And also, somehow, brings me more peace of mind than a lot of days these past weeks. As much as I want to tell you all about it, I feel like I can’t because I fear it’ll ruin my chances, any chances. And this frustrates me, of course. This is my blog, my space on the web and still, sometimes you can’t tell your readers what you want.

I wonder guys, how do you handle this? How do you (or don’t you?) write about your life, when you know certain people might be reading along? How do you voice frustration about colleagues? Or about family? Do you voice it? Or keep it all for yourself? (Or do you talk about it with friends and have no need to talk about it on your blog?)

Obviously, I don’t want this space of the internet to turn into something negative, a place to nag. I know the downwards spiral of negativity and I try to stay away from it. But when you feel like you’re at a critical place in time, do you talk about it? (Which makes this post sound overly dramatic. Don’t worry, everything is fine, I need to figure something out and it’s taking a lot of head space).

So tell me, should a lifestyle blog really be about life? Good and bad? Or should I stick to the curated version and keep away from drama (and clickbait titles πŸ˜‰ )? Feel free to tell me in the comments.

(Ps: I also have a lot of thoughts and opinions about this, way more complicated than the statement I made above. I don’t want to turn this blog into some soap-story, although if I put enough drama in it, it’ll probably attract some readership. No worries, though, because I’m not planning on doing this, it’s just that, with 40 Days of Blogging, I sometimes wish this could be more of a diary type of thing than a well thought out blog. But I still really like my well thought out overthought blog posts)

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2 Comments

  • Reply Asti || atypicalnarrative 16 March 2017 at 15:13

    I don’t know, this one can be a hard one. I honestly think it’s for each blogger to decide on their own.

    As a reader, I don’t mind either way. I think bloggers who can talk about the negative can be refreshing sometimes and it allows readers to connect on a more intimate level. But, it can also be a slippery slope because you’re putting more of yourself out there to judge (and as you said, it’s not just strangers who may come across it).

    I’d say if you’re feeling the urge to write about something you’re unsure about, write it. Create a draft so you can at least get the feeling out, and then let it sit. If you’re comfortable with it and still want to put it out there, go for it. You can publish it fully, or maybe password protect it so just a close friends can read it, or just publish it privately so only you know it’s there. Or, if you decide after writing it it’s not a good idea, it can stay a draft. That way you can sort of get the relief from talking about it without actually putting yourself out there.

    I used to have a personal blog where I would really open up and throw all my emotions against the wall, but I ultimately decided to shut it down for this new blog I’ve started. While writing about the stuff felt natural in the moment, I felt like I was giving too much energy to the negative things in my life and it sort of made me sad to look back at. Now I still open up way more than I probably should online, but I try to limit it to a positive note just for my own sake. I want my content to make me smile.

    So yeah, to each their own! And apologies for the super long comment. It’s an interesting topic to think about!

  • Reply Fenne 16 March 2017 at 22:04

    I’m not much of a talker unless I get the right questions πŸ™‚
    Most of what I need to get off my shoulders is hidden in my work. It gets a symbolic shape and story. The challenge with that is finding the balance between a personal and a universal story.
    When it comes to a lifestyle blog,… Only the positive side might become or feel fake, we’re all humans (well, to be honest I’m from Mer-curious). There are many ways to deal with struggles without getting stuck in negativity or nagging.

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